Two Main Rules Recovery Has Brought To Life
October 13th 2021Blog Post
“It describes people’s inability to choose their own personal legends. And it ends up saying that everyone believes the worlds greatest lie. what’s the worlds greatest lie? The boy asked completely surprised. It’s this: that at a certain point in our lives, we lose control of what’s happening to us, and our lives become controlled by fate. That's the worlds greatest lie.”
After just hitting a big mile stone, over two years of not one sip of booze, I look back at this quote. While I lost control, if I let it up to “fate” my fate would of continued for me to drink and honestly I don’t know if I would be here.
The number one life lesson recovery has taught me, especially as a first responder is….well two number ones(they are so close) so like a 1. and a 1.5. This is for anyone going through a hard time or waiting for something to happen to them especially if we are creating different stories in our head all the time which isn’t real and unfortunately is wasted time.
- You have to be completely honest with you first. Not your significant other, your family, your friends, your squad..YOU. All of that will come once you accept this is who I am right now in the present moment. I got here because of X, Y and Z. Some of it was in my control and some of it wasn’t and that’s okay. I accept who I am now, who I was in the past but will change it for me. Once you accept that and get serious about you, that’s where 1.5 comes in.
1.5. Take massive action on improving yourself. I’m not talking about days, weeks or months, I’m talking years. See us as humans especially first responders are so some resilient we don’t even realize it. We are so adaptable we don’t even realize it. We can adapt for the positive or negative. Surround yourself with people who root for you (there are a lot more people rooting for you than people who want to see you lose) I know that’s hard to believe but I firmly believe love is a human instinct that’s part of our DNA and deeper, our soul.
In two years I was able to accomplish more for my personal self (my soul) then I was able to for probably over 20 years of my life.
With that recovery has taught me two main lessons, there are many more but
1. To be honest with you first and 1.5. Take massive action.
Things will slowly fall into place with the best choices you truly make and believe in with a sober mind, (remember sober is more than just using substances) at that time, not fate. Life isn’t perfect but with my personal recovery I don’t have to suffer as hard.